Pin vise gripping the square, and using heat if needed is the way I do this. I've never snapped a stem doing it this way, but of course you have to have a feel for what the stem can take.
Gripping on the rounded portions rather than the square can cause damage to the stem - slightly out of focus but you can see the damage to the round portion here:
This is now a cutting tool, and the raised burrs from someone grabbing it here chewed out both the main plate and the barrel bridge, spreading brass debris throughout the movement.
For installing the crown again, it depends a bit on the crown and stem design if Loctite is required. On some there really is no option, but if the stem is trimmed properly and is sturdy enough that it can be tightened well, it's not needed.
Cheers, Al