And you both are assuming that everyone sells or knows how to sell on e-Bay, has a seller's account or is willing to sign up for a seller's account, and is willing to go through that just to sell you a watch?This is pretty smart. I wish I had thought of that when I bought a watch here.
Both parties get protected and both parties increase feedback score when transaction completes.
Sounds win win to me.
And when this seller tells you to go away, and sells the watch to the next guy on the list, would you feel that he was unreasonable or would you accept that you were being unreasonable?
As a long time seller on a number of forums, I would never respond to an e-mail from you ever again, but I would add you to the list I have of people who I won't do business with. If you came across as that paranoid and suspicious, I wouldn't ever want to deal with you.
Remember, sellers also have the right to make a sale quickly and with the least amount of bull-bleep. If the watch is at all desirable, you won't be the only guy interested. The seller is not required to sell you the watch if you are requiring all sorts of nonsense to assuage your fears.
Once more, I'l say it again, the point of building a community is to develop a degree of trust and responsibility. Find out the seller or buyer's forum name. Check his sales and posts. If they are short on sales, check their contributions to the various forums. Determine how they are regarded and whether they have been around for a while. By all means, ask for references, particularly from other forum members whom you have respect for.
If you are new to the forum, perhaps you shouldn't be buying from the sales forum yet. If the seller seems new to the forum, don't buy unless they have posts and sales on some other forum, i.e. MWR, EOT, TZ, etc.
If you can't take the time to fit in and become part of the community and find the watch from another member of the community, then maybe you are better off buying from an AD and paying the price to allay your fear rather than annoying people with elaborate routines that nobody is going to go through if they have anyone else interested in the watch.
I'd rather knock a few bucks off the price than go through some of the Rube Goldberg-esque "stuff" promoted here.